Seriously.

I'm reading Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot right now. I don't know if she's gotten everything right so far, but this she got:

"There is an unwillingness to come right out and say 'I'm nuts about this girl; I've got to have her.' In other words, sexual desire is camouflaged in spiritual terms. What one knows is far from platonic-- is, in fact, plainly erotic-- is called a friendship, a relationship, an involvement, and experience.
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Let's be candid with ourselves before God. Call a spade a spade or even a muddy shovel. If your passions are aroused, say so-- to yourself and to God, not to the object of your passion. Then turn the reins over to God"


Is anyone else tired of Christian singles talking like this? Don't spiritualize human love. God's love is love of the spirit. Human love, between a man and a woman is usually rooted in lust and pheromones. Christian love for your brother/sister does not lead to an all night gal pal about how much you enjoy spending time with a certain boy. Christian love between a brother/sister does not knock you off your feet and make you crave to spend time with a specific boy every moment of the day.

Like she said, call a spade a spade. Admit your yearnings to God. Not to the man you're yearning for. This would only cause either a relationship that is too intimate too fast or pain of separation if he does not return your feelings. Turn it over to God. He will know what to do with it.


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I'm mostly talking to myself here. If you're reading this you've probably already caught on to that because you know me well, but I'm not the only girl who struggles like this. And there's plenty of boys out there doing the same thing. People fall in love with their friends all the time, they're just afraid to admit it.